Couples Corner: Places To Go

Hubby always like to be at home. He never likes going out or going to places. The only time that he would be out of his pjs is when the prospect of a long drive is brewing in his mind. Our favorite place as a couple for some months now is Greenhills. We buy gadgets there, but no we are not gadget fanatics. Gadgets, I mean, mouse, mouse pad, ds. The most that we like about the place is this:

The chili flakes in Sbaroo is awesomely good. Always, he woudl get spaghetti with meatballs and I orders baked zitti. He would ask fro chili flakes, extra parmesan and garlic powder. He would share with me his meatballs and we would finish it off while talking about anything.

That's my meal, baked zitti plus his meatballs plus chili flakes.

Another place that we both enjoy is La Union and Tagaytay. In La Union, we enjoy the beach, the waves and the seafoods. In Tagaytay, we can't get enough of Leslie's BULALO! and Bag of Beans freshly baked cinnamon..yum yum yum

Well as you can see, our bonding time is ever good without food. We both love eating.

Couples Corner: Sleep Time!

Toinks! I thought Cuddling time is the theme for this week. It was actually SLEEPING HABIT of the couple.

Let's see.

We have two beds in the bedroom. Most of the times, when all the kids are sleeping already, he would embrace me, spoon position. That would last for 30 minutes or so until we fall asleep. Sometimes, it would only last for ten minutes then we would go with our usual position, he with the boys and I with Sati and Chico.

Couples Corner: Cuddle Time

Pasensya ka na Mareng Liz, we don't have a pic together cuddling. It would me be on cam or he. But if this week's theme is about intimate and physical relationship with your partner, then I can say a lot. I believe that physical relationship is very important (yep that means sex). Some people thinks that intimacy is a small part of a relationship. I think otherwise. To me, having a healthy sexual life means having a healthy relationship. Sex is a a natural instinct and to deprive your partner with is is like depriving him a food. I am not telling you have to do it everyday no.

As for cuddling, hubby can never sleep without cuddling me, sometimes it ends up in one steamy night but most of the times, we drift off to la la land together

Couples Corner: Honesty

Honesty is such a lonely word. Everyone is so untrue. Honesty is hardly ever heard. And mostly what I need from you..

Hoy, that's not my entry.. just need to let it out.. I am having an LSS here waaaah..

Seriously..I am very honest with my hubby and he on me. The word secret does not involve in our vocabulary (oh well except for times when he would ask or I would ask him if we have other "plans" for tonight, that's the only time that the word secret is used). I really can't keep a secret from him and I know he too cannot keep any information from me.

He is trying to quit smoking or rather I was forcing him to quit the habit. Even if he goes to the office and I could not see if he is smoking or not, he would tell me, if he smoked a stick or two. I, on the other hand, is very true to him. He knows how much moolah I have in my paypal. He knows where I got my moolah and he even knows who is the husband of some of my marce (that's Paul, Mike and Rey). He even knows what avatar Mike is using LOL. I really have to tell him small things like that.

We both know we should never keep anything from each other. In fact we have no privacy at all and suits us both. He knows my stuffs (even my password) and I know his stuffs too. Even when he goes out at night, he would tell me where he has been. Oh yeah, I know everything about AF1 and the likes. It's creepy at times but we just looove stalking at each other.LOL

Couples Corner: Breakfast In Bed

Breakfast in bed? na ah. We never tried... I thought but I first head on to other CCers and peek on their entries, Marce Seiko's entry was really funny and reminds of instances when hubby wears the chef's hat.

The only time that he would prepare a meal for me was when I was sick or if I just gave birth (except when I gave birth to Sati since I recovered easily). He would cook Halaan soup for me. We never tried breakfast in bed because I don't like it. I never tried serving him a breakfast in bed because he don't like it too. We can't eat anywhere else but in our dinning table. Here, it is a sin not to eat on the dinning table. hehe

Couples Corner: Promise

Will you still love me tomorrow?

I don't know..

Since Marce Liz has no answer yet, I am quite lost on how to deal with the theme this week. Is this a question for me? or for him?

If it is for me, my answer would be yes, I will still love him tomorrow, the next day and all the days to come. Heck! I chose to be with him so what is the sense of this question? nyahaha

Hubby and I do both believe that when you enter a relationship there is no turning back. A relationship is not brought about your hormones (maybe inspired by it), it is a decision to be involved with some one else. It is more than kilig moments, I can't last another day without you drama, to us, it is based on thinking if you are ready to stay with the person no matter what.

And yes, when I got into relationship with my hubby, I vowed to myself that I will do anything to make it work.

Couples Corner: Date?!?

Plans for Valentines Day?

Oh I already told you about it...

I am gonna wear... wahaha

Seriously.. hubby and I never had a date on Vday and we never celebrate it, even our anniversary.. if he wants to buy me something, it is not out of any occasion, when I want something he never waits for an occasion to give it to me, as long as he can afford it.

So yeah, most likely this Vday, we'll just sleep the night away.. I mean "sleep"

LOL

CC: Xrayed Couples

Xray couple because theme for this week is how well we know each other. There is only thing about me that my husband knew and that's what keep our relationship strong. He knew that when we quarrel, bicker, get at each other, he SHOULD be the first one to say sorry. He knew I love my pride so much. LOL

As for him, uh, I knew him so much that he cannot lie to me. Sometimes he would tell me something and I can caught him if he has a hidden agenda. But if you insist that I put a list of things I knew about him, I won't give you a hard time LOL

I knew that he loves eating with fruits, banana for saucy dishes (menudo, afritada) and mango for any other type of dish.

He hates poopoo and have this thing over garbage. He hates seeing that the garbage can is already full. It is rare that he would clean up his kids poopoo.

He always prefer rice over bread but he like bread with peanut butter on it partnered with hot coffee. And yes, he like dipping his pandesal in his coffee.

When he is angry, don't argue. He never take reasons when he is mad. Try to let him cool down and talk to him after his moment.

He likes pleasing me, in every ways. In every thing. When I want something, he tries his best to give it to me.

He never likes Pizza, but he loves to eat, eat and eat and he never get tired eating beef.

There is so much tot ell about him but I guess this will do for a while. Head on to Marce Liz for more Couples Corner entries :)

And oh he hates pictures.. that's why I don't post our pictures, because we have none.

Couples Corner: GRRRR!!!

Oh no.. I have nothing to share today here in Couple's Corner.. He made me really angry? when? I can't remember a time where I a m so furious at him. I tell you I don't have a lot of patience and I snap easily. I am always mad at him, LOL. I easily get mad at him but I'm easy to please too. For the love of Marce Liz, I will try to remember any situation that I got so furious at him.

There was a time that we almost got separated but I was not angry at him, I was hurt by his choices. *after 30 minutes and after scheduling my post for gt* OK, there is one incident that I was so hurt (and yes, a bit furious at him). I went out and meet my friend in a mall and we spend the whole afternoon chatting. When I got home and he learned about it he was so angry and paranoid. We spend the whole evening arguing and there was a point where I was so afraid of him that I threatened him. I told him if he would not stop being so paranoid I would kill myself. I was not angry at him, I was hurt because he did not trust me.

I was s o hurt because I love hims so much and I always try to understand him. Days before that, he let me wait for him fro three hours, on my birthday! And no, I was not mad at him, I know he was that busy (and I got with the ipod he gave and some stick on the hand, so it was not a big deal that I waited for 3 hours). That made him more paranoid, he said I should have been mad at him. Most of the times, he acts like he is the girl in the relationship. LOL

Couples Corner: Please WASH!

I so love this week's theme!! as in super that I wanna fly to Marce Liz place and kiss her and bring her bagoong na alamang or any native food to thank her. LOL The theme for this week is most annoying habit.. and last night we just had a short scene about one of his habits that I so hate.

Before that, his number one habit that I come to get used to is closet chaotic talent. He can make a nice looking, very organized closet to an Ondoy aftermath scenes. He is not doing it to annoy me, he just do it. He is not aware that he is doing it actually. Like for example when he needs to get an underwear, he would always (as in walang palya) take one that is waaay under all his underwear,, he is taking underwear literally. The best part about it is not he does not how to put it back. Even on shirts, shorts and all. Even if I would put his favorite short on top of his clothes, he would still dig under it.. haays..

And yes, his most annoying habit, oh well, after having four kids, he kinda changed now. Except for last night when he forgot again..he forgot to wash his feet before going to bed. Ah yes, his habit is he keeps on forgetting things but forgetting to wash his feet before bedtime is unacceptable to me.

How about your partner? What makes you say, "ibabalik na kita sa mudra mo, hmp!" LOL

Couples Corner: Shopping With Him

This week theme for Couples Corner is SHOPPING, shopping before you relationship and shopping after.

I love shopping, but not for myself. I love shopping for the people I love. When I am still single, I love shopping for my siblings and my mom. Occasionally I shop for myself but not clothes or shoes but school supplies. I am kinda addicted to the smell of fresh notebooks and paper. Instead of buying clothes, I indulge myself with papers.

Now that we are married or even during the time that we are still living together, my shopping attitude is still the same. I love it and I love doing it for him. I would shop for his clothes and his need. of course now that we have kids, my priority are the kids. But last week, I received an IM message from him:

hubby: mommy
hubby: gusto mo ba ng damit
hubby: bibilhan kita
hubby: mommy
hubby: bigyan kita budget
hubby: magkano gusto mo

And later that day, he told me his IM account was hacked!

Nyahaha.. he was trying to fool me, but he eventually give in and gave his promised "budget" for me. I ended up buying clothes for my kids instead of me.. waaah...although I got me two new pair of shorts as I can no longer fit in my old clothes LOL

Told you, I love shopping.. how about you?

Couples Corner: Jealousy

Jealousy? Is there a word like that? I believe that this word is used when you something that will threaten your relationship with your partner, like seeing your partner holding hands with other girl or dating another woman.. but if you feel like hammering your partner's head because you found a text in his cellphone from a girl's name or you feel like burning your husband's clothes because he did not went home the time you are expecting him to.. well it is called PARANOIA.. and I always got that.. I am paranoid! nyahaha

My recent paranoia attack was 2 days ago when I learned that someone I knew seems to be having an affair. Now that made me think faster than the horse in Sta Anna race track. I thought what if my hubby had an affair before, what if he will have an affair in the near future? what if.. what if.. what if..

As for the hubby.. he is also paranoid or maybe just being right. I remember when we were just starting and I was an active member of our organization. As a member, we are to hop around the campus inviting other orgs to a certain activity. It so happens that I am with a gay friend and while walking around the campus we were holding each other's hand. When he learned about it he was furious. He said that people who knew that I am his girl would think bad about me.. and so on. Another instance was when one of our fraternity brother hugged me and he was mad too.

Only later that I realized what he really means. And from then on I tried to avoid male.. and if you will notice I don't have much male friends in the blogniverse..and that when I organize a meet up, only girls are allowed to join. I don't talk to them to prevent future arguments. It is ok with me as I am not really friendly to opposite sex.

Couples Corner: Kiss And Make Up

And picking up from our fight last week.. that night, after an hour of shouting and bickering at each other, he went to smoke a stick. After smoking, he was calmer and I was too.. so basically that's how our first fight ended. Before, when we have misunderstandings, or when we quarrel, I always fight back. I stress my point shouting.. which made our misunderstanding worse. Now I don't fight with him anymore. I knew now how to win my battle. So whenever we had a misunderstanding, I just keep my mouth shut and let him do the talking. After he is done and when he is calm, and he is trying to win me over.. or when he realized he was wrong (although he is not), that's the time that I do some real talking, pointing out his mistakes. It always worked.. the SILENT TREATMENT..

What made it worked is not the fact the I always win. It worked on us because during the time when his is angry, I knew that he won't listen to me. His mind is blocked by his madness. So I let him get over it and when his mind is clear (and when he can accept anything I say just so I will let him kiss me), I tell him what went wrong or I explain my side to him.

Couples Corner: First Misunderstanding

This is like a telenova.. haha.. abangan ang susunod na kabanata style eh.. I have to say kuddos to Liz for gving this kind of meme. Congrats Marce! Remember my entry last week? That some of his relatives treats me like I was nobody (and that includes MIL).. This is our first biggest misunderstanding.. well actually not OUR misunderstanding but more like our first "drama" being a man and wife. I really can't remember the exact things tat happened but I remember I was depressed and I texted him. It has something to do with the way his relatives are treating him. He was so angry and frustrated... he is because with our situation we just can't go and live somewhere else and at the same he is worried about me. He called me and I can sense form his voice his frustrations. And so to pacify him..I just said it's OK (it is still not but I am beginning to understand our situation then)..

And for our REAL away.. our first son is a colic boy.. and he goes to work and travel 2 hours to go there and another 2 to be with us.. we lived in Valenzuela then and he works in Ortigas. Just imagine how tired he can be when he got home.. and then at night he still need to play daddy to his boy, pacifying the baby and helping me. So he really is tired most of the times. But he has this annoying hobby.. of not washing his feet before he goes to sleep. One night, I saw his feet as dark as black and since I am dead tired reminding him to wash it before sleeping, I put a plastic bag on his feet. he woke up and was damn mad at me.. At the middle of the night we were shouting at each other. Inside, I felt triumphant because I knew he would learn his lesson through it. After that, he never sleeps without washing his feet.. but how did our shouting stopped? wait until next week.. LOL

Couples Corner: One Year Already?!?

One year already? Yup, that's our theme for CC this week. first year of being husband and wife... I missed the wedding day but will post a backdated entry soon..

Argh.. this is hard to explain without giving you a recap of what happened during our wedding. So after his proposal, we decided to get married on March 8 (2003) then due to lack of moolah (you have to pay the judge, buy clothes.. etc) we decided to move it on May but then we learned that I am already pregnant with our first boy and so the wedding should happen soon (my mother is still not aware that she has liberated daughter.. nyahaha).. And so we were married and the only people on his side was his mom (will give you the details soon) while on my side were some of my siblings (some can't attend and my oldest sister DOES NOT want to) and some friends of my mom. It was more like my mom's occasion than us.LOL

one week after I gave birth to our first boy

And so after the wedding, our relationship did not changed at all.. but the first year of being together has been very crucial. We have to face a lot of trials. During the first few months of being his wife, some of his relatives changed their attitude towards me. I have been living in their house for more than a year then and they were OK until we got married. It was stressful for both if us. There was this feeling that they does not like me. To make that worse, I was pregnant and experiencing morning sickness and other pregnancy related emotional roller coaster.

Then came along our first baby who is a colic one. Our patience were tested and so our capability as a parent and our commitment to each other. There is not a night that we don't bicker, it was our first time being a parent and to a colic child! Oh gawd, it was really hard but then it was one of the things that made us more stronger. I think the best song for our first year together is You and me against the world. It was how I felt then. And my mother who is my sanctuary was away. But even if she was far from us, she was our pillar. My hubby would call her every time we had a fight. She was the anchor in our relationship and her words and advices helped us through it all.

Couples Corner: Call Your Mom

I was envious of how people can make a good post (or a mushy one) about their love story.. nyahah.. not like mine which is dry.. nyahaha.. for the purpose of experimenting, let's see if I can make a mushy one from a very dry love story we got.. this week theme is marriage proposal.

When we decide to be an item, I knew that he was the one I want to spend my life with. He was the same too. We know for a fact that our decision to be together is something that we cannot take back. We will grow old and spend our days only in each others arm.

We were inseparable and I stopped studying just to be with him. I lived with him in their house and that's when our relationship was put to a test. I had a misunderstanding with his family and he stand by at my side. Until now, whenever I look back, I am happy that he (in a way) chose me. At first we were happy and contented just living together. We have no plans on getting married. The conflict with his family made us stronger and we decided to get married the next year.

Although I never expressed it, it was a dream come true to marry him. I am so into him and my friends can attest to that (and they even told me I was obsessed with him.. a bit..). His proposal was very simple but I knew that he spend nights (and even days) thinking about it. He was sure that he wants to be with me but I know he was still contemplating if he can take the responsibility of being a good provider to me and to our future kids. So when he told me he was ready, I was delighted and ecstatic. It only means one thing, he was ready to start a family of his own. We were to start a family of our own.

His proposal did not went like a man would kneel and will ask the woman to marry him. There was no ring involved in his "proposal", it was as simple as telling me to call my mother to start preparing the paper works needed for the marriage. It was not even romantic but to me it was heaven.. hearing those words from him are just lovely.. come to think of it, if he did propose to me in the usual way, I would not believe him.. The way he told me he was ready to marry me is so him and that what made it more special..

And our wedding? you gotta wait until next week for that *wink

Couples Corner: We're In Love!!

This is my first time to join this meme hosted by a dear friend and kababayan Liz.. but I promised Niko that I would make up with the two weeks I missed. This week's theme is We're in LOVE...

We're in love.. yikes so mushy and corny, yep we are not your typical couple who loves to show how much they love each other. We have ways (and I'm not gonna tell what are those, ask NIko, but I bet she won't tell either.. nyahaha). I guess this week, we are suppose to talk about our dating days, right Liz?

After we became an item, we practically lived together. He was on LOA then but visits Los Banos most of the time (I want to believe it is me he is missing). Second semester of 2000, he enrolled again and of course we stay on the same house. We went to the campus together, ate lunch together, ate each otherdinner together, everything, we did together. Then he graduated and I was left alone, he moved to Valenzuela and after a month or so, we decided (or the situation decided for us) we can't live far from each other. I moved in with him and from then on we were inseparable.

Couples Corner: The Day We Met

This week theme for Couples Corner is the day we met and the day we became an item.. yay!

I was a member of a sorority and he was a member of our fraternity counterpart. It was Nov 14
(or something) when a frat brother celebrated his birthday on their house in QC. He was on leave (in school) then so I never met him before. When he arrived, somebody says he already has a wife and three kids and by the way he looks, we believed so. We met again sometime November and I kept thinking about him (syet na malagket, inlababo ata ako!!). It was January of 2000 when I relaized I really really like him. He was focused on a girl then (wawa) and he completely ignores me.

It would be too gross if I will give you a detailed account of how I did EVERYTHING to GET HIM. Now we both agreed that he is the one who wooed me, er, I made him say that.. nyahaha.. Seriously I am still proud to say that I made him mine which he would say, I was just lucky he was a willing victim then.... which would end up in a petty (and funny) fight, which would end up in...

*wink *wink

Couples Corner: Mr and Mrs

Meet The Couple here in Couples Corner. Click on the badge to see more happy couples in the blogniverse.

I am pehpot and you know that by now. He is cata and though most of you does not know him,
he has been on my blog more than once (and hey he was once a lurker like you).

I am 27 and he was 33, yep 6 years age difference but he says he feels like I treat him like a child most of the time (must stop reprimanding)

He is a software developer, I am a full time mom. He says he wants a stay at home wife, I
say I want a working husband while I wait (for our allowance) with the kids on the house. We're perfect for each other!

He is objective and I am subjective. And it does good on our relationship. when he is too
objective, I inject some emotions on him and when I am to subjective, he injects some logic
to my senses.

He is an introvert and I am extrovert. Yup, he never likes occasions and gatherings. he is not
shy, he just don't like it.

If there is a thing that we both agreed, that's the fact that we are different from each other.

Wanna know more about us, then watch for my next Couples Corner entries :)